Sun, 20 May 2012 12:02:37 -0500WeeblyFri, 23 Mar 2012 00:31:46 -0500http://aglosi.com/1/post/2012/03/your-relationship-with-you-are-you-cultivating-the-relationship-with-yourself.html When I asked a client how was the relationship with himself, he acted bewildered. Does that question also throw you off guard?  People are accustomed to keeping busy, taking care of others and often times omitting that voice that sometimes say, slow down, take a walk, take a break; don’t eat those cookies etc..... Creating a meaningful relationship with yourself, releases anxiety. 

You gain strength and courage, you build self-confidence and self-esteem. You become empowered and you slowly begin to recognize solutions to challenges rather than considering the challenges to be petrifying.  Recognizing a life-long trusting partnership that can’t be divided is definitely a sweet perk.  Being in a relationship with yourself takes you not where you think you should be but where you ought to be. 

How have you built your relationship with your self? How often do you check in with yourself to ensure you both are in sync? Is it only when you are mad, sad or hurting?  If you are interested in developing a relationship with yourself, feel free to contact us to help you develop the skills.

Until,
JPPMOTM
]]>Wed, 21 Mar 2012 01:12:07 -0500http://aglosi.com/1/post/2012/03/social-media-the-good-the-bad-and-the-need-for-your-idpassword.html_ How often have you asked your client to clarify what they meant by “being real” on face book or other social media? Did they understand the consequences of not setting boundaries when submitting a post even if it’s for “friends” only?  Some clients recognize there is a risk and yet they allow emotions to discard their boundaries when it comes to relationships. Others are learning how past emotional blogs are affecting potential employment. There is a surge in Human Resources (HR) personnel to ask potential employees for their face book password and user id.  Some request that you “friend” them and some will ask that you log on while being interviewed so they can “look around”. Depending on the position you are seeking, what you post can affect the hiring decision. While the laws are unclear on whether this act is illegal; the requests continues to be made.  Have any of your clients dealt with such a request? Did they walk away or did they provide their user name and password? Is this issue related only to certain generation?   

Until,
JPPMOTM

   

]]>Wed, 29 Feb 2012 13:06:05 -0500http://aglosi.com/1/post/2012/02/the-hidden-talent-or-your-purpose-in-life.htmlAre you sick and tired of your JOB? Do you work not because you enjoy what you do but because it’s a paycheck or...? What are your skill sets? What is your passion? What is your purpose in life? Do you know?

Let’s try an exercise. Go to a quiet place with a pen and paper; situate yourself so that you can begin meditating to relax your mind. Focus on your goals, your vision for your future, your true desires, allow yourself to immerse in your purpose of life so that you can receive it as it is revealed to you. 

Once you have centered yourself, return to your normal breathing and allow yourself to write down what comes to mind.  If you allow yourself to be open the results should offer you a guide about your hidden talent and your purpose in life. Compare what you wrote to what you are doing now.  Are you working in something you believe? Are you working where you are applying your skill set? Are you working in something you have a passion for?

If not, it’s not too late to discover your hidden talent(s) or your purpose in life.  You can always count on us to be your coaching partner.

Until,
JPPMOTM


]]>Wed, 29 Feb 2012 12:56:23 -0500http://aglosi.com/1/post/2012/02/how-do-you-handle-challenges-in-your-life.html Do you go to sleep wishing your challenge would go away? Do you turn to alcohol, pain medication etc as a reliever? Or do you face the challenge with vigor while seeking for options to tackle the issue? Going to sleep, absorbing a substance is only a temporary relief.  When you wake up or the substance wears off your problem will still be facing you and it may seem even more intense than before.

Consider accepting your challenge by identifying the challenge. Once you have claimed ownership for the challenge, you can then seek resources that will shed a light on how to deal with it and or resolve it. Apply the appropriate step towards finding answers.

Don’t fret! It may seem as if you are alone with this big burden; although you may wish the problem belongs to someone else, this has your name on it. The fact is, the problem is yours and you need to deal with it. Everything happens for a reason and this challenge is meant for you to experience it at this time. Therefore, you must take that step towards finding answers. Don’t stop until you have a solution. When you think you can’t is when you must push harder because I know you can. Be strong, be courageous, be that shining light to empower YOU to deal with any challenge

Until,
JPPMOTM

]]>Wed, 29 Feb 2012 12:36:58 -0500http://aglosi.com/1/post/2012/02/meeting-your-personal-objectives.html How many times have you heard someone say “there isn’t enough time in the day or week to get all the things I want done”.  Yet others manage to get what they need to get done within that same time frame. Are you having difficulty managing your personal goals? 

Do you have a blame factory of all the reasons why you did not meet your personal goals that day? Have you tried planning your day with hard stops so that you can move on to the next item on your agenda? What happens when you do? It may not be an easy task for all but it certainly can be the first step into learning to manage your time effectively.

Once you begin your first step you may be ready to move on to step two.  Need to learn more... don’t hesitate to contact us....

Until,
JPPMOTM





]]>Fri, 17 Feb 2012 10:09:50 -0500http://aglosi.com/1/post/2012/02/my-upcoming-speech.html Are you fearful of that upcoming presentation, speech or toast at a retirement party?  You are not alone! Effective public speaking is a learned behavior that anyone can accomplish.  Jitters in public speaking can be a curse or a blessing to you depending on how you use it.  As you learn to control your fear you will become more relaxed so that you can articulate the words you have assiduously been practicing. You will remember that you did organize your speech; therefore you won’t be rambling. You will use transitions from one relevant topic to another rather than not getting to the point.  Most of all you will remember to use the 5Ps. see archive    "cast the jitters   "  article below.  Need to learn more... don’t hesitate to contact us....

Until,
JPPMOTM

]]>Fri, 17 Feb 2012 10:09:13 -0500http://aglosi.com/1/post/2012/02/i-crushed-their-ego-i-won-did-you.html How often have you found yourself in a discussion where you won the argument but lost an alliance? Perhaps it was a situation where both parties were bent on sharing their views but when the conversation ended both parties had a lose/lose situation. Would you like to communicate your ideas, opinions or view so you can end up with a win/win result? You can always count on us to be your coaching partner. 

Until,
JPPMOTM

]]>Fri, 17 Feb 2012 10:07:31 -0500http://aglosi.com/1/post/2012/02/everything-happens-for-a-reason.html Someone once said  "make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy in which you can not build on it; it’s only used for self-pity."  Do you hold on to regret? Do you realize holding on to regret is the same as keeping negativity in your life?

Consider where you would be today if you did not let go and allow the regret to be a lesson learned? Now reflect on a part of your life that made a lasting impression on you because you allowed yourself to be open to letting go.

Perhaps you can think of regret as a flower or a plant. When a plant has poor soil it typically experience poor growth. When a plant has rich and fertile soil it generally has abundant growth. I challenge you today to reflect on your past to see how you can change the way you deal with regret. 

YOU are not alone. Take the next step today if you want to learn more by contacting us.... eeverything happens for a reason.
Until,
JPPMOTM

]]>Thu, 02 Feb 2012 16:58:54 -0500http://aglosi.com/1/post/2012/02/the-inner-critique.html Are you committed to being the primary leader of your life?
Do you stand up for what you believe in even if it may not be the most popular decision?
Do you offer praise for an opinion when you really want to say you don’t support the opinion?
Would you prefer to tell a lie than to tell the truth for fair of being chastised?   
Do you keep your opinion to yourself but internalize what you should have shared?
Do you allow others to cross your boundaries?
Do you have boundaries?
Are you fearful of expressing yourself when you are directly confronted?
Do you keep quiet and become passive so you don’t upset the person?
A “Yes” answer to the above questions indicates you may need support to get on track. These are only a few questions which are indicators that you are not the primary leader of your life. Another angle of recognizing whether you are the primary leader of your life, are the behaviors that follow when you wish you gave another response.

Do you find yourself immediately seeking comfort food?
Do you get angry with yourself or others without cause?
Do you lash out at others because you won’t speak your true opinion when asked?
Add your top three

1. ?
2. ?
3. ?

What’s holding you back? Were you raised with the adage of keeping your opinion to yourself? Are you told to fit in you must be agreeable often times sacrificing your principals?  Are you afraid of losing a “relationship” if you share your opinion with poise? If you are committed to being the primary leader of your life and need a partner to sort through the intricacies, don’t hesitate to contact us....

Until,
JPPMOTM

]]>Tue, 24 Jan 2012 15:03:05 -0500http://aglosi.com/1/post/2012/01/does-effective-leadership-require-probing.htmlAre you a reactionary leader? Do you find yourself often regretting a decision? Are you the type who will not admit you were wrong? Or are you a leader who makes a decision based on a Blueprint?

Consider the following scenario; then determine your initial response.
You assign deliverables to teams with a request they submit their findings to a project lead for compilation and review. You eventually receive a poorly structured & unorganized report, laden with errors, omissions etc. Clearly there is a problem?  What do you do? Do you fire the project lead for incompetence? Do you ask someone else to repair the problem eventually ceasing direct communication with the project lead? Do you give accolades because you don’t want to hurt the lead’s feelings?  Do you evaluate alternate scenarios before making a decision? What is your decision making Blueprint?

Most problems must be addressed from its root cause so that it doesn’t emerge again when least expected. There are many successful approaches to the above scenario.  Assuming the project lead is coachable; you must find a way to communicate regarding his/her performance in other to pave a path for improvement.  

Consider probing using the acronyms PITM Blueprint:
(1)P. (2)I. (3)T. (4)M.

(1)   Poor Training –Did the project lead gradually grow into the position with training or were they thrown into the position? If the project lead was thrown into the position; performance that is acceptable for one leader may be mediocre for another. Does the project lead have sufficient training and or comprehension of the processes and procedures for the position? Making an assumption that one’s title means proficiency isn’t always accurate; the lead may need direction on expectations.

(2)   Inadequate material – Did the project lead have sufficient resources or equipment to perform the requested tasks? Are there budget constraints that obligated the project lead to use limited resources?

(3)   Time– Does the project lead have satisfactory time to complete assignments properly? Do you assign the project lead all tasks? Does each task have an urgency attached to the due date?

(4)   Motivation– Does the project lead feel overworked and under appreciated? Is the project lead happy with their profession? Does the lead have a working relationship with co-workers, management? Is the lead having family problems that affect their performance? How do you know if the lead is motivated to perform their work?

If research supported one of the acronyms - (P), (I), (T), (M), how do you approach the project lead?
Fast forward to your Blueprint for the next assignment:

• Was your approach successful? 
• If not why not?

Need help? ... You can always count on us to evaluate your Blueprint.

Until,
JPPMOTM

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